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Holding space for you in a session is the experience of having someone solely focused on your needs, wants and desires. It is also about creating a space, a container where you can feel safe to be yourself and free to express whatever feelings or emotions come up. It is a unique and rare experience because there are very few times when experiencing pleasure with someone where it does not come with the expectations of reciprocity. There is nothing wrong with mutually satisfying each other. But there is a lot to say for getting undivided personal attention. Especially when it comes to intimacy and getting your erotic needs met. In reality, there are very few situations that provide such an opportunity and very few people willing and capable of providing such an experience. I gladly seek to provide such a space in my BDSM and Bondassage sessions.

The term ‘holding space’ was actually unfamiliar to me. It was a friend and client who explained to me that the unique thing that I was doing in my sessions was called holding space for them. In my sessions I am entirely focused on pleasuring you and creating a safe space where you can freely express your emotions, erotic wants and desires without any expectation beyond what you and I have negotiated. Also, I have very clear boundaries for my sessions which are designed to direct focus on your pleasure, not mine… and they are not to be violated.

I am by nature a giver. So, I am very comfortable with and actually take great enjoyment in providing a protective space and hold space for you!